{"id":2509,"date":"2026-03-18T11:57:15","date_gmt":"2026-03-18T10:57:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/case-of-death\/"},"modified":"2026-06-03T14:27:50","modified_gmt":"2026-06-03T12:27:50","slug":"case-of-death","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/case-of-death\/","title":{"rendered":"Case of Death"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"et_pb_section_0 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_0 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_0 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_image_0 et_pb_image et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-image--default\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3-scaled.jpg\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1105\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3-scaled.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3-1280x553.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3-980x423.jpg 980w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3-480x207.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) and (max-width: 1280px) 1280px, (min-width: 1281px) 2560px, 100vw\" class=\"wp-image-1456\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_014-3\" \/><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_section_1 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\" id=\"was-tun-im-todesfall\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_1 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_1 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_heading_0 et_pb_heading et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-heading--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_heading_container\"><h1 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">What should you do in the event of a death?<\/h1><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_2 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_2 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_0 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h3 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">The most important thing \u2013 saying goodbye<\/h3><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>Before the situation overwhelms you, take a moment to calm down. Take the time to say a proper goodbye to the deceased before the body is transferred. Are there any other relatives or friends who haven\u2019t yet had the chance to say goodbye in person? Saying goodbye \u2013 whether in a care home or hospital, at an open or closed coffin at the cemetery or in our farewell room in Olten \u2013 is an important step in the early stages of the grieving process. Please speak to us about this. Together, we will find a suitable and dignified setting to meet your needs. Depending on the situation, a number of organisational matters will also need to be dealt with promptly following a death. A death can sometimes take us completely by surprise. During this difficult time, it is helpful to involve family or close friends, accept support and, where possible, share the tasks that need to be done. Not everything has to be dealt with immediately. To ensure that nothing important is overlooked, we have compiled the key points for you. On request, we are happy to take care of all the necessary tasks or just individual steps on your behalf.            <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_3 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_3 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_1 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_button_module_wrapper et_pb_button_0_wrapper preset--module--divi-button--default_wrapper\"><a class=\"et_pb_button_0 et_pb_button et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-button--default\" href=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Checkliste-im-Todesfall_v3.pdf\" target=\"_blank\">PDF Checklist download (German)<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_2 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_main_blurb_image et_animated\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003.svg\" class=\"wp-image-284 wp-image-495\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003\" \/><\/span><\/div><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_section_2 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\" id=\"administrative-hilfe\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_4 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_4 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_0 et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-text--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\"><h2>In the first moment<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_3 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Death at home<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Call your doctor or local emergency services on <a href=\"tel:144\">144<\/a>, Describe the situation and follow instructions.<\/li>\n<li>Arrange the transfer with the undertaker at <a href=\"tel:0041622968383\">062 296 83 83<\/a> (24-hour emergency service).<\/li>\n<li>Submit the original medical death certificate to the responsible civil registry office within 48 hours. If you are unable to do so, please notify them of the delay by email or telephone. With a letter of authorisation, the funeral director can also handle this on your behalf. The civil registry office will issue you with an official death certificate, which you will need for cancelling services (bank, insurance companies, etc.). If available, you may also wish to bring the family record book.    <\/li>\n<li>Notify the deceased\u2019s local authority (registry office) of the death immediately and arrange an appointment.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_5 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_5 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_flex_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_button_module_wrapper et_pb_button_1_wrapper preset--module--divi-button--default_wrapper\"><a class=\"et_pb_button_1 et_pb_button et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_flex_module preset--module--divi-button--default\" href=\"tel:144\">Notruf 144 anrufen<\/a><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_button_module_wrapper et_pb_button_2_wrapper preset--module--divi-button--default_wrapper\"><a class=\"et_pb_button_2 et_pb_button et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_flex_module preset--module--divi-button--default\" href=\"\">Call funeral home now<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_6 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_6 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_4 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">In the event of an accident, a suspected suicide or a homicide<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Call the police on 117, the international emergency number 112 or the emergency medical service on 144.<\/li>\n<li>In the event of an assisted suicide through EXIT, please notify the police and the funeral director in advance.<\/li>\n<li>In unusual cases of death, the cantonal police will report the death to the relevant registry office as soon as the deceased has been released by the public prosecutor. You can order the official death certificate by telephone or pick it up in person from the registry office. Please bring your family record book with you, if you have one.  <\/li>\n<li>Contact the deceased\u2019s municipality (registry office) and arrange an appointment.<\/li>\n<li>Arrange for the deceased to be transferred to the cemetery or a crematorium through a funeral service. If the next of kin have not yet been informed of the death, the police will call in an on-call funeral director. However, you have the option of instructing a funeral director of your choice to handle the remaining tasks, including preparation for burial, laying out the body, and organising the funeral arrangements.  <\/li>\n<li>Notify the deceased person\u2019s accident or life insurance provider.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_module et_pb_button_module_wrapper et_pb_button_3_wrapper preset--module--divi-button--default_wrapper\"><a class=\"et_pb_button_3 et_pb_button et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-button--default\" href=\"tel:112\">Call emergency services now on 112<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_7 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_7 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_5 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Death in a care home or hospital<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>The nursing staff will notify the doctor, and the care home will usually forward the original medical certificate of death to the responsible civil registry office. As a relative, you can contact the civil registry office (Zivilstandesamt) to request the official death certificate by post or collect it in person. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_6 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_main_blurb_image et_animated\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003.svg\" class=\"wp-image-284 wp-image-495\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003\" \/><\/span><\/div><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_section_3 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\" id=\"checkliste\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_8 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_8 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_1 et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-text--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\"><h2>Next steps and considerations<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_7 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module bulletpoints-padding preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Transfers abroad<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Contact a local funeral director and make sure you ask for advice in advance. Even if a funeral director abroad is commissioned to handle the repatriation, it is essential to issue all the necessary documents, such as the sealing protocol, and to compile the mortuary certificate and other repatriation documents.<\/li>\n<li>Please provide the deceased person\u2019s passport and residence permit (no copies).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_8 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module bulletpoints-padding preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Type of funeral<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Did the deceased wish to be cremated or buried?<\/li>\n<li>Will there be a public funeral service, or will you be saying your goodbyes amongst your closest family and friends?<\/li>\n<li>Will there be a funeral service at the cemetery? Will you take the urn home with you, or will the ashes be scattered in nature or in a river? <\/li>\n<li>What material would be best for the urn? Let us advise you. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_9 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module bulletpoints-padding preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Arrangements and the funeral<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Zeit f\u00fcr die \u00dcberf\u00fchrung mit Bestattungsunternehmen Ihrer Wahl absprechen.<\/li>\n<li>Findet eine Aufbahrung statt, wo und an welchen Tagen?<\/li>\n<li>Select a coffin or urn at the funeral home.<\/li>\n<li>Collect the urn from the crematorium, either in person or via a funeral director.<\/li>\n<li>Has the relevant registry office (Zivilstandesamt) been notified of the death (within 48 hours, excluding weekends)?<\/li>\n<li>Has the funeral office in the municipality of residence been informed?<\/li>\n<li>Has the parish been notified, and has contact been made with the vicar (this is often arranged by the funeral office in the municipality of residence, including the timing of the funeral service, booking the church and burial in the parish cemetery)?<\/li>\n<li>We\u2019d be happy to help you find a wedding speaker.<\/li>\n<li>Set the date and venue for the funeral service.<\/li>\n<li>Decide on the time and place of the burial, either before or after the funeral service.<\/li>\n<li>Book a venue for a funeral reception or simply a get-together after the funeral service.<\/li>\n<li>Blumenschmuck bei Bestattungsunternehmen oder direkt beim Blumenfachgesch\u00e4ft bestellen.<\/li>\n<li>Would you like a particular piece of music to be played at the funeral service, such as a choir singing or an instrumental performance for example, on the organ, violin or harp? <\/li>\n<li>Preparing eulogies, writing CVs.<\/li>\n<li>Draft an obituary and submit it to the newspaper of your choice, approve the proof for printing, and enquire about costs. If you wish, we can work with you to draft the text and take care of all the associated tasks. <\/li>\n<li>We can print obituary cards for you. We\u2019re also happy to help you compile the text, background images and photos. <\/li>\n<li>Create a mailing list<\/li>\n<li>Thank you cards and thank you notices in the newspaper.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Even though everything is still unfamiliar and a bit chaotic, the following steps need to be taken. In the meantime, the Registry Office will issue the death certificate independently and send it to the address of the deceased and their next of kin, i.e. their spouse or children. Otherwise, please give them a call and ask where the document is.  <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_10 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Notifications<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Family, friends, neighbours.<\/li>\n<li>The employer, both your own and the one of the deceased.<\/li>\n<li>Care, Spitex<\/li>\n<li>Cancel the deceased\u2019s upcoming appointments.<\/li>\n<li>The AHV is notified by the registry office (Zivilstandesamt)<\/li>\n<li>Pension fund, vested benefits accounts, Pillar 3a, life insurance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_11 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Other tasks<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Looking after pets.<\/li>\n<li>Tidy the house, clear out the fridge, empty the letterbox.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_12 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Legal and financial inquiries<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>The funeral office in the deceased person\u2019s municipality of residence will inform you about the inventory and further procedures with the probate office.<\/li>\n<li>Ensure that any end-of-life arrangements or a will are in place and hand them over to the funeral home.<\/li>\n<li>Submit the medical certificate of death or official death certificate (copy), if already available, to the funeral office.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_13 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h3 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Terminations<\/h3><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><ul>\n<li>Have bank accounts frozen with retroactive effect from the date of death.<\/li>\n<li>Tenancy agreement: please inform the management immediately.<\/li>\n<li>Health insurance and complementary insurances.<\/li>\n<li>Accident insurance, life insurance<\/li>\n<li>Telecom provider<\/li>\n<li>Other Insurances<\/li>\n<li>Have your social media accounts deactivated and deleted.<\/li>\n<li>Have the email accounts closed.<\/li>\n<li>Newspapers<\/li>\n<li>Other subscriptions, customer accounts, etc.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_14 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_main_blurb_image et_animated\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003.svg\" class=\"wp-image-284 wp-image-495\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003\" \/><\/span><\/div><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_section_4 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\" id=\"hilfe-zur-trauer\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_9 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_9 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_image_1 et_pb_image et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-image--default\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011.jpg\" width=\"1300\" height=\"794\" srcset=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011.jpg 1300w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011-1280x782.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011-980x599.jpg 980w, https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011-480x293.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) and (max-width: 1280px) 1280px, (min-width: 1281px) 1300px, 100vw\" class=\"wp-image-636\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Symbolbild_011\" \/><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_10 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_10 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_text_2 et_pb_text et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-text--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\"><h2>Grief: A Long Journey<\/h2>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_15 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>The funeral marks a significant step in the grieving process, but the journey of saying goodbye continues. You are faced with the challenge of coping with the void left by the person who has passed away. Grief means gradually coming to terms with this new reality. That takes time. In the days that follow, practical questions often arise: what to do with the deceased\u2019s personal belongings \u2013 keep them or sort them out? Sending thank-you cards, going back to work? Trust your inner voice; it will show you when the time is right for such decisions. The same applies to your social life: if it does you good to be among people again, accept invitations. If you need peace and quiet, withdraw from your social circle for a while. If your grief is becoming too much to bear, do not hesitate to seek help \u2013 whether from a counsellor, a bereavement support group or through psychological counselling. Grief is a perfectly normal emotion. Experience shows that the initial pain eventually subsides. A healthy grieving process enables healing, acceptance of the loss and, ultimately, an openness to new perspectives on life. You will manage this too. You have already achieved a great deal in life, but grief is an exceptional situation. In grief, you get to know yourself anew. Everything around you becomes meaningless. When a loved one dies, a part of you dies with them. Face your grief head-on; running away achieves nothing. It will find you wherever you go. Give your grief time and space. Do whatever does you good. Look at old photos, throw yourself into work or go for walks in nature. Crying does you good. Tears held back flow inwards; you can drown in them. Grief is exhausting and saps your strength. And it can make you feel lonely, because those who have never experienced grief have no idea of its power. Grief can bring about strange and conflicting feelings. At first, the priority is simply to survive. Don\u2019t let yourself be pressured, neither by those around you nor, above all, by yourself.                             <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_16 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_main_blurb_image et_animated\"><span class=\"et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003.svg\" class=\"wp-image-284 wp-image-495\" title=\"Bestattungsdienst-Drei-Tannen-Olten_Trennlinie_003\" \/><\/span><\/div><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_section_5 et_pb_section et_section_regular et_block_section preset--module--divi-section--default\" id=\"hilfestellungen-zur-trauer\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_row_11 et_pb_row et_block_row et_animated preset--module--divi-row--default\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_column_11 et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et-last-child et_block_column et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough\">\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_17 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h2 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">Stages of grief according to Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross<\/h2><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross\u2019s five-stage model of grief describes typical reactions to the loss or death of a loved one. The stages \u2013 denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance \u2013 do not necessarily have to be experienced in strict sequence, and everyone experiences them differently. They serve to help process the pain and gradually come to terms with the reality of the loss. Furthermore, this model has been expanded by other authors to include additional aspects such as disorganisation, feelings of guilt or anxiety, which may also form part of an individual\u2019s grieving process.   <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_18 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h4 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">1. Denial<\/h4><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>Die Phase des Leugnens ist nach Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross die erste Reaktion auf eine ersch\u00fctternde Diagnose oder einen schmerzlichen Verlust. In dieser Phase wirkt das Geschehen oft unwirklich. Betroffene denken oder sagen zum Beispiel: \u201eDas kann nicht sein\u201c oder \u201eEs muss sich um einen Irrtum handeln.\u201c Das Leugnen ist dabei kein Zeichen von Gef\u00fchllosigkeit, sondern ein nat\u00fcrlicher Schutzmechanismus der Seele. Es hilft, die \u00fcberw\u00e4ltigende Realit\u00e4t zun\u00e4chst auf Abstand zu halten und schrittweise zu begreifen. Diese Phase kann unterschiedlich lange andauern. Manche Menschen verharren nur kurz darin, andere ben\u00f6tigen mehr Zeit. Mit zunehmender innerer Auseinandersetzung beginnt sich die Wirklichkeit behutsam zu zeigen \u2013 und der Trauerprozess geht in die n\u00e4chste Phase \u00fcber.       <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_19 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h4 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">2.Anger<\/h4><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>\u201cWhy me of all people?\u201d \u2013 \u201cWhy my husband, my wife or my child?\u201d Questions like these often arise during the anger phase. Many mourners experience an intense sense of inner outrage. It is not uncommon for blame to be directed at the doctors involved: Why couldn\u2019t my loved one be saved? Depending on the nature of the death \u2013 for example, due to an accident, an assassination, a serious illness or in war \u2013 this anger may also be directed at higher powers, at God or at others responsible. Anger is not an inappropriate emotion in grief, but a powerful reaction to the loss suffered. It can help to overcome feelings of powerlessness and gradually process the pain. However, if it is suppressed for too long, it can manifest as depression or persistent bitterness. That is why it is important to express anger in a healthy way \u2013 by talking to people you trust, through writing, through physical activity such as walks or sport, or even through simple outlets such as punching a pillow. Feelings are allowed to be there and need a space in which they can be released. Feelings of guilt (addition) \u2018Why didn\u2019t I...?\u2019 or \u201cIf only I had\u2026\u201d are agonising questions and self-reproaches that people often ask themselves after losing a loved one. Behind the inability to come to terms with death often lies, among other things, the desire to have another chance with that loved one. Sometimes, however, it is easier to blame oneself than to accept that death is a part of life. In specific cases, such as a car accident, it is of course true that a bereaved person may be to blame for the death of a loved one. Under such circumstances, it can take a very long time to come to terms with oneself. Try to examine your sense of guilt and distinguish between genuine guilt and false guilt. Talking to family, friends and acquaintances, and perhaps with counsellors, can help you understand and process these feelings. Disorganisation (additional note). Once the initial shock of the loss has subsided somewhat, many people are overwhelmed by a multitude of intense feelings: fear, denial, doubt, perhaps also relief, anger and deep sadness. Anyone who tries to analyse every single emotion immediately may quickly feel overwhelmed. You should therefore seek to talk to family members, friends or acquaintances and, if necessary, seek professional support. Through discussion, feelings can be better understood and processed step by step.                     <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_20 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h4 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">3. Haggling and bargaining, wrestling with God<\/h4><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>During this phase, those affected try, deep down, to avert the inevitable. They \u2018negotiate\u2019 \u2013 often with God, fate, life itself or a higher power. Typical thoughts might include: \u2018If you make him well, I\u2019ll be a better person.\u2019 \u2018Please let this all be a mistake \u2013 I promise I\u2019ll change.\u2019 \u201cIf I\u2019d prayed more, perhaps it wouldn\u2019t have happened.\u201d \u201cIf only I\u2019d acted sooner, everything would have turned out differently.\u201d This is an attempt to regain control. The person is searching for a way out of their powerlessness. This bargaining serves an important function: it creates hope in the short term. It alleviates the feeling of complete helplessness. It gives the events a semblance of meaning. It provides a kind of emotional \u201cbreathing space\u201d before the full reality of the loss sinks in. Whether religious or not \u2013 even non-believers \u201cnegotiate\u201d internally, for instance with fate or with themselves. Is this phase normal? Could you please explain this better? Yes. K\u00fcbler-Ross understood this phase as a normal part of the grieving process. It is not a sign of weakness or a loss of touch with reality, but an expression of the deep bond with the person who has been lost and the need to want to undo what has happened.              <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_21 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module bulletpoints-padding preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h4 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">4. Depression<\/h4><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>The depression stage is the fourth stage in Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross\u2019s model of grief. Once denial, anger and bargaining have gradually subsided, the reality of the loss becomes more clearly apparent. The finality of the situation becomes palpable \u2013 and with it, a deep sadness. At this stage, it is no longer a question of undoing what has happened. The pain is experienced consciously. Typical feelings may include:     <\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Emptiness and hopelessness<\/li>\n<li>Withdrawal from other people<\/li>\n<li>Fatigue and lack of motivation<\/li>\n<li>Crying or emotional numbness<\/li>\n<li>Sleep or concentration problems<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>According to K\u00fcbler-Ross, there are two forms of depression. Reactive depression: this relates to specific losses (e.g. shared plans for the future, everyday life, security); and anticipatory depression: this is quieter and deeper \u2013 an inner process of saying goodbye to the world or to a loved one.<br \/>Is this phase normal? Yes. This phase is a natural part of the grieving process. It does not automatically mean clinical depression, but describes a healthy, albeit painful, reaction to a serious loss. It is important to allow yourself support during this time \u2013 through conversation, closeness or professional support. Sadness is not a sign of weakness, but an expression of the love and significance the deceased person held in one\u2019s own life. Anxiety is not a distinct stage in Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross\u2019s classic five-stage model, but it is a common and very understandable feeling in the grieving process. Following a loss, anxiety can manifest in various ways:        <\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Anxiety about the future (\u201cWhat happens next?\u201d)<\/li>\n<li>Fear of being alone<\/li>\n<li>Existential fears (financial or everyday worries)<\/li>\n<li>Fear of further losses<\/li>\n<li>Physical symptoms such as restlessness, palpitations or sleep disturbances<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The death of a loved one often shatters our sense of security and stability. The familiar order of things breaks down \u2013 and with it comes a sense of uncertainty. Fear is a natural reaction to a loss of control and to change. It shows just how closely the person who has died was connected to our own sense of life. At the same time, it can be a sign that we need to seek support and find a new sense of direction. Is this normal? Yes. For many people, fear is part of the grieving process \u2013 sometimes lingering in the background, sometimes very clearly felt. It is important to take these feelings seriously, to talk about them and not to judge yourself for them. However, if fear becomes overwhelmingly persistent or severely disrupts daily life, professional support can be helpful.         <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"et_pb_blurb_22 et_pb_blurb et_pb_bg_layout_light et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_module et_block_module bulletpoints-padding preset--module--divi-blurb--default\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_content\"><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_container\"><h4 class=\"et_pb_module_header\">5. Acceptance<\/h4><div class=\"et_pb_blurb_description\"><p>Acceptance is the fifth stage in Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross\u2019s model of grief. Acceptance does not mean that the loss is \u2018good\u2019 or \u2018easy\u2019. Rather, it describes the state in which the reality of what has happened is accepted internally. Death is understood as a fact \u2013 even though the pain remains palpable. Characteristics of this stage:    <\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A calmer, more composed atmosphere<\/li>\n<li>Less inner resistance to what has happened<\/li>\n<li>The ability to look ahead again<\/li>\n<li>A gradual shift in daily life<\/li>\n<li>Memories that can contain not only pain but also gratitude<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> During this phase, life slowly begins to fall back into place. The loss becomes part of one\u2019s own life story. Does acceptance mean the end of grief? No. Grief does not simply disappear. Even when we have accepted it, waves of pain, longing or melancholy can still arise. But they no longer overwhelm us with the same intensity. Acceptance is not about \u2018moving on\u2019, but rather an inner coming to terms with reality \u2013 and the beginning of a new, changed path.      <\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-2509","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2509","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2509"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/2509\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/drei-tannen.mwmedia.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2509"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}